Science-based relationship & dating coach · Speaker · Host
Helping people date with intention—and build the partnerships that shape families, community, and legacy.
Wife of 30 years and mom to two young adult children. Science-based relationship and dating coach, speaker, event host, and founder of DOTTIE. Available nationwide for coaching by inquiry, Relationships Unfiltered, on-site hosting, keynotes, and press.
About
Arvia Few has been married for 30 years and is mom to two young adult children. That life—building a family with her husband, Jason—is her anchor: the reason she does this work, and why she can. She is a professional matchmaker and science-based relationship and dating coach who helps people create meaningful connections—so they can find love and build strong, enduring relationships. She works with clients and events nationwide.
After graduating from Howard University with a degree in Business Administration, she spent more than a decade in sales and marketing at Procter & Gamble. She then dedicated more than 20 years as a stay-at-home mom—until her kids went to college—while continuing philanthropic work in her communities.
In 2021—inspired by the challenges young Black Americans face forming lifelong relationships amid dating-app bias, cultural shifts, and post-pandemic isolation—she founded DOTTIE. The organization is named after her mother, Dorothy, a passionate advocate for Black civil rights and a respected member of the Atlanta community. In 2024, she expanded into science-based relationship and dating coaching.
On this site, Arvia offers 1:1 coaching by inquiry (she vets clients personally); her signature live experience Relationships Unfiltered; and on-site hosting for someone else’s singles or connection event. Matchmaking and introductions stay with DOTTIE—for Black professionals in their 20s and 30s—at thedottieclub.com.
“Love was never meant to be a solo sport.”
Signature experience
A live, unscripted room where young adults ask the dating questions they’re actually living—taking the conversation out of the group chat and off the internet. Not a lecture. Not a panel. The answers come from the people in the seats.
Arvia opens with a brief introduction, then the mic moves to the room. Someone stands up with a real question—say, “I’ve been dating this guy three months and it’s still not official. Do I stay, or keep it moving?”—and instead of answering herself, Arvia invites someone else (often a man in the room) to give his hot take. One comment sparks the next. The conversation snowballs. It’s honest, funny, occasionally heated—and hard to shut down, in the best way.
She’s bringing the format on the road: colleges, Greek and fraternal organizations, conferences, alumni networks, and community groups that want brave dating conversation at scale.
Arvia sets the tone with a short intro—why intentional dating matters, and why this room is a safe place to get real.
Young adults step up with the questions they’re living: situationships, timelines, “is this a red flag,” when to walk.
Arvia invites someone else—often a man in the room—to answer first. Perspectives stack. The conversation builds its own momentum.
She helps land the energy so people leave with language, courage, and connection—not just a viral moment.
“We are the most connected generation, but also the loneliest generation.”
“I’ve been in this room for an hour and I haven’t seen anybody on their phone.”
“Find someone in your life that you can build together with, because that’s ultimately how you become who you truly should be.”
On-site hosting
You fill the room. Arvia flies in, hosts, and creates the space for intention—for any community or age group.
Hosts keep asking Arvia to show up for singles nights and connection events—for groups of every age, from high schoolers on up, plus faith communities, alumni circles, and more. Building and curating those guest lists is a different business. What she will do is arrive as the hired host and facilitator: work the room, spark conversation, facilitate matching energy, and be everyone’s wing person for the night.
She does not curate or recruit the guest list. That’s on you. The draw for your promotion: Arvia Few will be there—and rooms tend to sell out when people know she’s in them.
Open to any community that wants intentional connection under her facilitation—including communities outside DOTTIE’s core membership (for example, friends’ faith communities or multi-generational singles nights).
1:1 coaching with Arvia
Science-based, one-on-one dating and relationship coaching with Arvia, built around you. Coaching is by inquiry, and Arvia personally vets each client.
Every session is customized to your unique goals, experiences, and challenges.
Develop the tools and mindset to approach dating and relationships with confidence.
Gain deeper insight into your dating patterns, preferences, and deal-breakers.
Work toward actionable goals designed to create real, lasting change in your love life.
“I left our conversation inspired, excited to explore dating differently, and more hopeful than ever. I actually redownloaded Hinge while we were on the call and already have a date scheduled for next Friday.”
“Your describing the choice to start over in love at 30 as brave, and reminding me that 32 is still young, gave me a renewed sense of confidence.”
“I learned so much, and I overall left the call feeling very encouraged.”
“I’ve really appreciated our sessions, and they’ve helped reinforce a lot of what I was already thinking.”
Private one-on-one coaching for clarity, confidence, and intentional dating. Share a little about where you are and what you want, and Arvia will review your request before scheduling an introductory call.
Inquire about coachingDOTTIE is Arvia’s community for talented, ambitious Black professionals in their 20s and 30s who value cultural connection, because your love life deserves the same intention as your education and career. It offers events, coaching, Dating Decoded group coaching, and matchmaking.
If you’re in that community and want to join, attend an event, or be matched, start at DOTTIE.
Speaking
Keynotes, panels, and workshops aligned with Arvia’s coaching, Relationships Unfiltered, and on-site hosting work. Ideal for universities, companies, conferences, faith communities, and cultural institutions nationwide.
Why so many singles are exhausted by swipe culture—and how coaching, curated community, and live conversation offer a more human alternative. Draws on Arvia’s founding of DOTTIE and her CBS Mornings appearance.
A candid look at how partnership, family formation, and cultural connection shape opportunity—and why intentional rooms matter for the next generation.
How Arvia’s signature format works—brief intro, mic to the room, peer hot takes that snowball—and why campuses, Greek orgs, and conferences can’t stop talking about it.
Lessons from a long marriage—resilience, caretaking seasons, and choosing each other again—woven with coaching insights for audiences hungry for real models of lasting love.
For organizers hosting singles or connection events across ages and communities: what a professional facilitator adds when you fill the guest list and want the energy handled.
The founder journey from Howard and Procter & Gamble—through years as a stay-at-home mom—to matchmaking and coaching: how listening to a community need became a movement named for a mother’s legacy.
“I had high expectations going into last night and they were exceeded! Thanks for hosting such an amazing event! I met so many beautiful, brilliant, and interesting women. Events like this for in-person connection are exactly what we need.”
“I love the spaces that you are creating for young Black people. With such a rift being formed through social media, I believe spaces like this are steps in the right direction for us to address the wealth disparity and divorce rates that we statistically see in Black households versus other communities!”
“You are amazing for doing this with the young, gifted and Black. I am locked in and actually for the first time very hopeful for young Black love. … I cannot thank you enough. It takes a village.”
Press
A growing archive of features and conversations. For interviews, use the contact form below.
On loneliness, cuffing season, and practicing real-life connection. Arvia: “People are lonely because we are humans, and humans are meant to have relationships.”
Feature on Arvia Few and DOTTIE’s Cuff and Connect—creating intentional space for young Black singles beyond the apps.
Feature story and CBS Mornings segment highlighting Arvia Few and DOTTIE as a modern approach to intentional matchmaking for young Black professionals.
Founder profile on Arvia Few of The Dottie Club—mission and the work of creating space for young Black people to connect socially and romantically.
Watch & Listen
Real, juicy, and vulnerable conversations around relationships in our community—plus practical dating strategy on YouTube.
Featured appearance · 50K+ views on YouTube
Guest on Jodie K. Taylor — April 28, 2026. A wide-ranging conversation on marriage, career, love, and relationships.
Watch on YouTubeArvia’s podcast on love, dating, and marriage—guest couples, solo reflections, and the mission behind DOTTIE.
Dating lessons, street interviews with young Black professionals, podcast highlights, and event moments.
National segment on the return of matchmaking—featuring Arvia Few and DOTTIE.
The product
Just as you are intentional about your education and career, your social and love life should be no different. DOTTIE brings together talented, ambitious Black professionals in their 20s and 30s through events, coaching, Dating Decoded group coaching, and matchmaking. This site is where you book Arvia herself as a coach, speaker, and host for any audience.
Newsletter
Notes on intentional dating, partnership, and building the relationships that last. Be first to hear when Arvia publishes.
Contact
For coaching, Relationships Unfiltered, on-site hosting, keynotes, podcasts, and press—nationwide. Share a little about your event or goals; Arvia will follow up.